Do you have difficulty in accepting yourself? Accepting yourself is not as easy as it sounds. Yet, without it, you can’t live a truly happy life. Here’s the question: How do you do it? No need to worry. We got your back. In this article, we will tell you ways to accept yourself.
The first step is, of course, to know yourself. Self-acceptance is not possible if you don’t know who you are. Many people face difficulty to accept themselves because they have not yet discovered themselves. You must know yourself first before accepting yourself.
You can start your self-discovery journey from the following:
Ask yourself: What is your purpose? Your purpose should be yours and yours only. It is decided by your environment or by society. Find out what gets you fired up and wake up in the morning. Find out things that you are so passionate about.
Your values and beliefs
Part of your self-discovery is to learn more about the values and beliefs you have. These are what shape our lives and drive us toward things that really matter to us.
Keep a journal
You might not yet sure of who you are. That’s not a problem. Keeping a journal can help you know what you need to know. Keep track of your day-to-day activities. Journaling allows you to not only help you to get to know but also reflect on yourself. Best of all, it is done in a safe space.
Live Your Values
To accept yourself, you need to not only know but also live your values. Yes, knowing what your values are is important but it doesn’t stop there. Another part of your self-acceptance journey is to live your values.
By doing so, you are putting self-acceptance into practice, not just something to think about. Your values are akin to the rules for your life. They are what govern what you think is acceptable and what is not.
How do you know if a value is important to you? You would realize it if you act contradictory to it. For example, if you value honesty, lying to someone, especially one that you care about, would make you feel bad.
Accept Things that You Can’t Change
If you want to accept yourself, you need to acknowledge and accept that there are things that, no matter what you do, you can’t change. Stop spending your mental energy on these things. Spending your time on things you can’t change will only waste your time. Or worse, make you feel sad and down.
Accept what you can’t change. If you need time to accept this, do take your time. Be kind to yourself. Remember, even if there are things you cannot change that make you feel insecure, you are still a worthy human being.
Change What Can be Changed
We did say that to accept yourself, you need to acknowledge and accept that there are things you can’t change. That doesn’t mean you should avoid any change. Some changes are good, some are not. If there are things you can change to your benefit, then by all means change them.
Those changes will help you grow as a person and in the end, help you to become the person you want to be. Keep in mind that we all are constantly evolving and growing. As such, you want to do things that must be done in your best interest.
For the things you can change for your benefit, do the best you can. Once you have done it, accept it no matter the result. Haven’t put your 100% effort? Accept what you have done. Don’t beat yourself over it. Take a lesson from your mistake then move on. Make a commitment to do it harder next time.
In-line with changing things you can change for your benefit, you need to set effective goals. These goals need to be personal. That is, they need to come from within. They should come from your environment or society. They should serve your purpose, be it directly or indirectly.
Setting effective goals will help you
- be the person you want to be
- do things that you want to do
- have what you want to have
If your goals seem too big for the time being, you can divide them into smaller, doable steps. This way, you will be able to move towards your goals without feeling overwhelmed.
Another thing you need to keep in mind is that your goals should be driven by your own needs, wants, or desires. Goals that are not driven by your own needs, wants or desires will not succeed in the long term as you will struggle to muster your willpower when you hit an obstacle.
Prioritize Your Time
People who accept themselves manage their time wisely. They put themselves at the center of their life and do what they must in their best interest. They manage time in a way that helps them to live their purpose and achieve their goals.
Prioritizing your time means you accept yourself for not only who you are but also for who you want to be. This doesn’t mean you can’t spend time helping others, of course. This means that, first and foremost, you must prioritize your own projects and tasks first.
Helping others is definitely a good thing. In fact, helping others can be helpful in your self-acceptance journey as it is easier to accept yourself if you have done good deeds by helping others. But, it should not come at the expense of your own projects and tasks.
Last but not least, do forgive yourself. Things like past regrets can make it difficult for us to accept ourselves. So, rather than wasting time regretting something that can’t be changed, accept that it happened and forgive yourself. Learn from your mistake. Commit to making efforts to grow.
The journey of self-acceptance will not be an easy one. However, you must embark on this journey if you are to lead a happy life. A happy life is very unlikely, if not downright impossible, if you don’t accept yourself. A happy life starts with self-acceptance. We hope this helps.